The Challenges of Learning How To Support Someone in Rehab
The first hurdle when learning how to support someone in rehab is keeping the client in treatment. The vast majority of people coming into treatment will want to leave prematurely at some point. It is the “fight, flight or freeze” response to stress and treatment is stressful. Often this happens in the first few days when the client is still detoxing and is uncomfortable.
The desire to stop the discomfort and pain can overcome any rational thinking and the denial can be so powerful that the client is unaware they that they aren’t making smart choices. The family has to be strong enough to say no to the client when they ask to come home. Sometimes this might mean removing all access to funds, not taking phone calls and allowing the client to “sink or swim.”
The dichotomy is that the more the family tries to help or rescue the client, the more they actually enable or contribute to the disease and potentially prevent the client from recovering.
How To Help a Loved One Stay in Rehab
Sometimes the client does fine for the first couple weeks and then when the deeper issues start surfacing, they want to run.
The lure of their addiction becomes too strong and when confronted by harsh truths the client can’t tolerate the reality that brings with it pain, guilt, shame and grief.
If the family steps in and rescues the client they are robbing the client of the opportunity to learn positive coping skills and build confidence in themselves.
A firm stand by loved ones can make the difference between a client staying or leaving treatment prematurely; the difference between life and death.
Keeping a Family Member From Relapsing After Rehab
Then finally the day of discharge draws near and a new set of fears may develop. What will happen when they return home? Or maybe, will they even return home? There are many factors that go into creating a comprehensive individualized discharge plan.
It is important for the family to rely on the recommendations of the professionals that understand all the factors and know the best follow up care for each person in their hometown or possibly a local alternative, if the client stays in the area.
Learning to let go and give up the futile attempt to control the addict/alcoholic, trusting in both the professionals and the process, is as important to the recovery of the client as it is to the recovery of the family members. Again, solid and consistent participation in Al-anon, Naranon, or Families Anonymous and individual and/or group therapy can help the family with this transition.
For the client, participation in daily 12 Step groups, working with a sponsor to complete the 12 Steps and participation in a good aftercare IOP program can make the difference between ongoing, long term sobriety and relapse.
It is important to understand that though it is not ideal, relapse is a common component of recovery and can even be a positive learning experience. With commitment and professional guidance both the family and the client can recover and experience long term sobriety.
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